I wrote this article in January, 2010. I have never published it before today. I have revisited it several times over the past 3 years and decided that I wanted it included in my blog. I still feel very deeply about the ideas presented here.
Anyone who has spent much time with me socially or
professionally knows I believe in the power of strong communities. Strong
communities are built on close, communicative relationships. As an orchestra director, I see the performing
ensemble as a community, and I believe the best musical results occur when the
performers understand the importance of their relationships, both musically and
personally. Relationships are the
foundation of great music, great ensembles and strong communities.
I recently have been
thinking a great deal about the two-way relationship that exists between
instructors and students and the unique environment NCSSM provides. Clearly, students at NCSSM, and all
institutions, need their teachers. They
rely on their teachers for information, feedback, tutoring, academic and
emotional support, recommendations, information on academic opportunities and
mentoring among a wide variety of other things.
Yet, in recent weeks, I have become aware of how much we, as
instructors, need our students as well.
We certainly thrive on that “a-ha” moment of discovery and how it
motivates us to find new and different ways to explain concepts and facilitate
discovery learning. We enjoy the exuberance of our students as
they navigate the social and academic landscape of our institution, and we are
all aware of the limited amount of time we are given with them.
I have heard it said more than a few times recently that the
best teachers are the ones who are continually learning from their students. I
know I go into every day with a true knowledge I am going to learn something
new that day, and my students will play a huge role in the learning
process. I believe we, as teachers, need
our students’ genuine enthusiasm for our passions. For, without it, our lives
wouldn’t be nearly as fulfilling. As a
colleague recently said, when it is working the way it ought to, we are not
just filling our students’ cup – they are contributing as well.
We also sometimes need our students in more tangible ways. I was pleased to recently attend a
conference session where Jacqueline Dillon Krass, one of the pioneers and
leaders in the field of string education was speaking. She is now in her early 90’s and mentioned
she needs her students as much as they need her. And, she had become more aware of it in
recent months following knee surgery.
She literally needed her students to help her get around, while confined
to a wheel-chair. During this
presentation, I reflected on the relationship NCSSM teachers have with
students. I have always believed great education begins with strong
relationships between student and teachers. Great communities are built on
these relationships. Ultimately, that is what I am speaking about here.
While connecting with alumni has always been important to
me, Facebook and other social networking sites have facilitated meaningful
daily dialogue and renewed relationships with many former students. As a result
of this social media, I have reconnected with students from the past 20 plus years,
and I have been humbled and enriched by these
rekindled relationships. I have been in
regular touch with students that I haven’t seen or heard from in that time. I
am thankful for these renewed relationships. They have brought meaning and new
insights to my teaching and life today.
Shortly after the new year in 2010, our community was stunned to
learn of the passing of Corey Dunn (’06).
Corey held one of those important places in my life for the time he was
here at NCSSM from 2004-2006. Corey
truly was one of those rare students I could tell would be part of my life well
after he left NCSSM. We had a special
connection that resulted from common interests and attitudes about life,
family, and fun that we both sensed beginning the first day he showed up at my office,
bright-eyed and eager to let me know he would be my new work-service
student. I never had Corey in class. He
was my work-service student during his junior year, and we stayed in close
touch throughout his senior year, spending a great deal of time planning for
and participating in the first Team NCSSM MS Bike Tour Event in the fall of
2005.
Corey was an adventurer, and he always had an infectious
glint in his eyes. I told Corey, on
several occasions that I often thought my kids might grow up to be like him. (They looked very similar to Corey – blond
hair, blue eyes, and small stature. And,
they have a similar love for action and fun.) And, if they grow up to be like
him, I will be thrilled. During his time at NCSSM, Corey and I had many
conversations about his life and his adventures with friends and family. He
wanted to know about my family, too. He
was interested in my boys, our family life, our activities, and my music. It was this mutual interest and the type of
communication that builds rich relationships.
Corey had an incredible ZEAL for life. I remember asking him
one day why he was so fidgety, and he replied, “I just have to keep moving – I
have so much energy!” One of his best
friends told a story at his memorial service about a particular day they shared
while traveling in Europe. Corey woke up,
looked out the window, pointed to a mountain in the Swiss Alps and said, “You
see that mountain over there? We are
going to climb it today!” That was Corey.
Every day, there was a new mountain waiting to be climbed just outside
the window.
In 2004, when we began to plan the first Team NCSSM bike
event, Corey was the first to sign up.
He was so excited to be part of it and his enthusiasm encouraged me
through the event. When it was all said and done, only two students
participated, Corey and Michael Lavarnway (06), along with faculty members
Kevin Cromwell, Michael Reidy and me.
Corey became the center of the event. His boundless energy and eagerness
were contagious, and we all fed off his liveliness. He was enthusiastic about
every aspect of the weekend, from our 4:00 a.m. departure, to the unlimited
food, the camping, the people and the cycling.
He even got a new bike in preparation for the ride. At the event, Corey rode over 200 miles in
two days. We were all amazed at his
approach and were even more stunned when we found out he rode the first day
without a pair of bike shorts (which make a long bike ride much more
comfortable). Corey knew he was a
pioneer in this event. Somehow, I think
he knew his efforts would keep me going.
They certainly did. In subsequent years, our MS Bike event has grown
quite large and we have had much success with Team NCSSM. But, it would have
never happened without Corey and the relationship we developed through the
event.
I have thought of Corey a great deal lately. The
relationship we shared was a special one, and I am keenly aware of the strong
relationships that are developed at NCSSM between students, faculty, SLI’s,
staff, and others. I believe our
strength is in our relationships. Never
before have I been so aware of the wonderful things that I learn and gain from
my students. Corey has certainly been a part of that awareness. Today, I think I will climb that mountain.